So I’m taking Psychology 52, which happens to be a Human Sexuality course at my college. It’s definitely a lot more than what I had bargained for. Obviously the course goes over both female and male anatomy and everything you would expect from a Human Sexuality class. For one, let me say that the professor is absolutely amazing.
But the course covers things that are important to human relationships as well and how to develop, or be involved in healthy relationships. If there is anything that I’ve learned over the years is that romantic relationships aren’t as necessary to our well being as people make it seem. You can be happy without the approval of someone from the opposite sex.
As a young girl I was always taught that I should be independent and never depend on a man for anything (however, I’m afraid that when they referred to “anything” it was mostly financial). What most people fail to teach young girls and young woman, is that you should never depend on a man emotionally either.
It’s never a good idea to have expectations on another person, because you will be disappointed.
It’s okay for you to make the first move and approach the guy if he’s something that you want to pursue. If he chooses that he doesn’t want to date you, please do not take that personally. Every one lives in their own reality, and nothing is ever to be taken personally. People do or don’t do things for themselves, and no one else.
If someone tells you they love you, they’re telling you how they feel. Likewise, if they tell you they don’t love you, they’re telling you how they feel. It has nothing to do with you, so please do not take it seriously. And if you don’t feel the same, it’s okay. You don’t have to tell them you don’t love them back if you don’t. But if you do, and it so happens that you’re the first to say it, I hope you have the courage to say it first. Don’t be afraid that the other person won’t reciprocate the feeling, I promise you won’t die.
The only person who can reject you is YOU.
If you ever have to second guess yourself or wonder where you stand in a relationship, then you probably shouldn’t be in that relationship. And please don’t ever stay in a relationship where you’re simply being tolerated. You should be of the upmost importance to that person.
And don’t date people just to say you’re going on a date, or to pass the time. You’re time is valuable, and their time is equally valuable, don’t waste time on meaningless relationships, it’s not worth it. Spend some time to get to know yourself and what your wants and needs are.